Psychologist Dr Linda Papadopoulos tells .uk: ‘ The sooner you set expectations on where you draw the line on certain behaviours and what makes you uncomfortable, the better. ‘It is quite useful, and also funny to see what would be a red flag for someone might not be for someone else.’īy keeping a record of incompatibility issues, you take away the rose-tinted glasses common in the early stages of a relationship, and aren’t relying on your memory – which could be clouded by attraction and the desire to find love. ‘Then we started giving green lights for good things – two green lights probably counters a red flag if you’ve decided on a number of red flags you’re willing to tolerate. Vicki tells .uk: ‘We decided the easiest way is to “flag” the alarm bells rather than ignore and then be surprised when they’re freaks. She’s also begun adapting the technique to include the good things about someone too. It was the brainchild of my friend’s friend, Vicki, who says she came up with the idea seeing her mates ‘filtering through creeps’. When they reach three red flags, you delete their number for good and stop texting them. Each time someone you’re messaging does something that makes you feel uncomfortable or unhappy, you put a red flag emoji next to their name.
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